Passion is the poster boy of the 21st century. No discussion about a successful life forgets to include the dreaded keyword. However, there is no magic mantra to living a life that is fulfilling in every aspect; even if there was, I’m sure it would be longer than a single word. I love writing. I love putting words together. Is writing my passion? I’m not so sure, yet. Do I do it passionately? Yes. Always.
There’s a difference in the fine print of the definitions of those two words. Passion is “a strong and barely controllable emotion” while passionately simply means, “in a way that shows strong feelings”. If you’re doing something, it could be anything, you’ll not always love doing it so much that you feel a strong and barely controllable urge to do it. However, you can still do it in a way that shows strong feelings.
All In Or Nothing
Take working out, for example. It isn’t a great feeling when you first hit the gym or even start running, is it? You never go from someone who has sat in his chair for months to “Oh, I love working out and this is the best thing that ever happened to me” but you could always choose to give your morning run all that you have, to make sure you cover that extra mile if you can.
Similarly, I have a straightforward policy until I find my passion, if that is ever going to happen – all in or nothing. That is how I like to do things.
Everything Is But A Cup Of Coffee
When I’m making coffee, I just make coffee. I take it as a process that I have to do as diligently as I can because that is how it should be, especially when I’m going to be the one drinking it. It shouldn’t be over or under-brewed. It should take precisely the time as I know it should. Otherwise, it is useless.
In my opinion, anything I do is like making that cup of coffee.
When I’m reading, for example, I prefer just to read and not use my phone or talk to someone while doing it. If I feel that someone wants a conversation, I just keep the book aside. If humans could multi-task, we’d have never invented computers for it.
When I’m at a party with my friends, I make sure I enjoy and dance as much as I can because there’s no other way to do it. If I’m watching a live-gig, I make sure to take in every breath of that experience so that it sticks to the wall of memory like a big, fat sticker.
I was working on the last legs of my final project for college yesterday. I started in the afternoon. It had been about six months since I had even touched Android Studio. So, I struggled with it naturally. The whole process was so fun and engaging to me that I forgot how I barely took my eyes off the screen for over six hours.
My last roommate made it a point to not answer phone calls, irrespective of who was calling, for the fifteen minutes he took to have his dinner. At first, I found this habit rather odd. I understood it sometime later when I realised that his practice had rubbed off on me.
Yet are any of reading, partying, coding or eating my passions? I hope not.
Passionless At 21
I have a friend who is a budding architect, and she’s good at what she does. She gives it enough time, sometimes working throughout the night for assignments people just copy or slack off from. She’s even a photography enthusiast, and she doesn’t do that half bad either.
In a conversation some months ago, she was flustered and all over the place because she didn’t have a passion. Her understanding of it was that everyone around her was focusing on one thing and were extremely good at it while she was yet to find her thing.
That conversation stayed with me because I realised, I didn’t have a passion either. I do everything that I do as passionately as I can, and I love it this way.
I’m a 21-year-old undergrad student who will step into the real world some thirty days later. As the day draws near, I still fail to find that one thing I love doing. It is a mixed-bag of efforts in all things I do. I’m not sure if it is meant to be any other way.
We live in a world where twelve-year-olds make it to the headlines for coding an app that saved the world or where teenagers get more money off Youtube than some of us will ever amass in our entire lives. So, evidently, we feel anxious about finding our passion.
Having achieved some success doing things I won’t call my passion but things which I put my all into, if and when I did them, I can surely say that the only way I see anyone succeeding at anything is by going all in for as long as they want to do it.
How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything
Martha Beck once said, “The way we do anything is the way we do everything.”
If that is so, the least we can do is do things passionately. Maybe, we do stumble across our respective passions in the process. Even if we don’t, we’ll have still done plenty of things we’d have avoided doing if we just kept searching.