It’s that time of the year again. The day when those in love cherish and at times, exaggerate their fondness for each other. Also, the day when those who aren’t so lucky find ways to undermine what is a beautiful moment for the entire world. This post isn’t for the former. You’re happy, and you can enjoy the social construct called “Valentine’s Day” so more power to you. I hope you stay together and have a wonderful one. This post is to the other group. Listen up.
Stop being so uncool. It isn’t about screaming “Pyar ek dhoka hai” in public places and ruining something for others because it’s fun. It isn’t about walking with sad music in your ears as you look at couples all over each other. It’s about taking a look at the mirror; taking a look at yourself. Looking at what works, what doesn’t and what can be better. Then, going about bringing that better and making it real.
I know this sounds like “high horse” bullshit. It isn’t. Back in early 2015, I had just got out of a relationship of over three years. It was the first one in my life, and things were chaotic. I had also dropped out of college. So, I was quite frankly directionless, aimless and loveless. The last was worse because I wasn’t able to find love for myself within myself.
Stickers, Valentine’s Day, And A Pompous Young Adult
I was playing Counter-Strike: Global Offensive for more than half the day. In the little time that I had left, I was designing stickers for the game out of fun and well, sheer freedom to do whatever I wanted to. In fact, I think I could have used that free time for more than just gaming. Anyway, one of those days was the 14th of February, 2015.
This is what I shared on Facebook in the evening of that day. I was working on a sticker throughout the day, and well, it was done just in time. This one never made it to the game, but it was a step up from my work before it. I had taken time and spent some quality twelve hours to think, sketch, trace and colour it in Adobe Illustrator and Photoshop.
It is in hindsight that I know for a fact that I did a lot of things right that day and on every day that followed. I was changing my life without even knowing it. That one day and every day that followed changed my life in ways I could never imagine.
It wouldn’t be an exaggeration if I said that this one day put me through college on my own, helped me build a lifestyle, an identity and allowed me to improve myself even further, not to mention all the great moments since then that I could afford both mentally and financially.
Now that I look back, I am proud of myself for focusing on the right things. I didn’t know it at the time. It just felt right and fun in the moment and so, that is how I live my life; doing whatever feels fun, right and doable.
I have another thing beginning tomorrow. It’s a scholarship from Udacity and Google. That among some other things I’m working on. It isn’t a big deal, but it’s better than not doing anything. In fact, if you don’t have a partner for Valentine’s Day, the best thing you can do is love yourself to the point that you work on yourself even if you’re aimless and directionless. Just do what you love.
Consider it to be any other day and do what you do best – live it. Live it to the best of your abilities. You’ll find someone. I’ll find someone. Until then, let’s shake hands on being better tomorrow than we were yesterday. Happy Valentine’s Day. Have a good one. Love yourself. Be good. Be better.