I have no filter. I am the same when I’m writing on this blog or when I’m with my friends. Same goes for when I’m with my family. I say the same things and act in the same way with everyone. I am as deep with a stranger as I am with a close friend. It keeps things simpler. How did I reach here? Through blogging.
There is something with regularly putting your voice and opinion outside. It gives you a sense of freedom that you would never acquire otherwise. There’s less shyness. On the contrary, you hate closing yourself off once you get used to being open all the time.
The Question: Why Are You Like This?
I was talking to a friend once and I shared a personal story of how my mother wanted to abort me when I was conceived. It will be on the blog soon now that I’ve mentioned it. Anyway, my friend asked the following question.
How are you so comfortable with all this? You share something so important as if it was just another joke or remark.
Honestly, I didn’t have an answer. How could I? It was normal behaviour to me. It was when she asked me about it that I really paid attention and it hit me that not everyone can share their most vulnerable sides with someone they have known for just a few months.
I found the answer on Indiblogger’s homepage. It says, “we blog, therefore we are”. That was when it hit me.
I blog, therefore I am.
I think blogging or any (better) form of self-expression if done honestly, remove the hiccups in sharing who you really are with the world. Maybe this is precisely why most artists are considered weird. That is because all of us are weird, most people just hide it beautifully well. Not just from the world but from themselves.
It’s quite simple. Once you get used to yourself, it’s easier putting it out for everyone to see and once that is done, you forget how it felt to not share things. Slowly, you start putting everything out for everyone to see, all the time. That is when you forget to keep barricades or filters. That, in my opinion, is the best way to live.
#NoFilter But Why?
There’s a popular Japanese proverb that’s been doing rounds at social media since forever,
You have three faces. The first face you show to the world. The second face, you show to your close friends and your family. The third face, you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.
I say fuck that thought and keep it simple.
I believe that in a world where everyone is busy with their own shit to deal with, no one has the time to come take your layers off so why keep them? Take it all out and be comfortable with it. Don’t hide your deepest insecurities or phobias, wear them as badges and show them to the world. You’re not perfect. Don’t pretend. You’ll learn more this way and maybe become better than you were yesterday.
People often tell me I am way deep than the average person. As a child, I used to get really bummed out on this. I thought I said weird stuff and most people didn’t get me.
Now, I tell them,
That’s just the first four letters of my name.
In doing so, I do two things. Firstly, I accept and embrace that which they’ve just told me irrespective of their tone. Secondly, I crack a sly remark thereby showing how comfortable I am with myself and them realising that I am, in fact, a generally deep person, that I don’t take things on the surface. That one remark establishes a level of comfort and trust that leaves a lasting image of who I am as a person.
I Blog, Therefore I Am
Most people take note of how open I am about myself and everything when I talk or share. As a result, they feel comfortable opening up to me and both of us share incredible conversations and human experiences.
I live a less complicated life because I am who I am, irrespective of who I am with and I owe it all to my coincident journey of self-expression. In other words, I owe it to blogging.