This is not a factual article, rather one highly opinionated piece of work. It is at your behest whether you want to agree with me, want to despise me, want to bash me in the comments or on your own blog or take a minute and think about what I’m here to highlight. In better, more viral words, it’s your choice to do what you want after reading this article. That is, if you decide to go further below these words.
I am not experienced, as some elders are to be believed, for I am an 18-year old guy and yes, I face the question of what is empowerment everyday. Now, this might seem like a little off-topic to some, to some it would be a new perspective of things, to me well, it’s just my opinion. I am NOT fine with the way the world is going about the whole idea of empowerment. Call me a pessimist but despite the ground efforts, actual efforts being made to empower the less privileged (a very subjective word) sections of the society there has been a part where the idea of empowerment has become misguided – Ideology. We’re human beings so we’re all bound to have different ideologies and opinions, right? Yes, but that is only applicable to an extent. Now everyone’s interpretation of privileged is different. Some say, men enjoy the most privileged position in the society and I do agree, knowing that the society has had a patriarchal direction since centuries but I also firmly believe that each section of the society has their share of sufferers and that where there is privilege, there is misuse. Be it privilege given because it exists or privilege given on the account of empowerment. Each one of us would be a hypocrite if we fail to notice that while women are being empowered, some have converted their empowerment to their right to be selfish. Some males are still deaf to the idea of equality. Some people are too ignorant to even read or think about issues like these. Some just follow trends and go about hashtagging without understanding the meaning of everything that is being done.
As a result of all of it, and I’ll keep it short, the Society, the institution of Marriage and Family and the whole idea of Family and Human Relationships is falling apart. Yes, I took it there. It is falling apart. I would like to quote the recent video titled “My choice” starring Deepika Padukone and while I agree with most of the video (Yes, I do) there are a few places where I’m like, “Err, are you sure you don’t wanna take that back?” because that’s the obvious reaction. The video glorifies adultery after marriage as solely a woman’s choice. Now, the most common reply to this argument that I’ve seen so far is, “Why are you guys stuck on one thing? See the idea and concept.” (This is the most decent version of this reply I saw, there were worse ones, rude ones) so before you ask me that question in comments, I have to ask you this: Would you prefer your husband have sex outside marriage? Even if he just says he would. In other words, would you want to marry a person who says he will casually indulge in sex outside marriage because it’s his choice.
If your answer is something along the lines of “Yes” then well, Welcome to the world of Open Marriages but I doubt your answer would be Yes. You’d definitely go for a No if you are a person who respects the idea of families and marriage. Besides all of that, you’d call the guy a Pig and make sure his reputation is so tainted that he cannot get married to even a faraway friend of yours. Yes, that would happen.
So, now what do I see? I see a world which is fighting. I see selfish people taking advantage of the ideology war. I see (or hear) about places in my country, at least, where brutal sexism still exists and no one bats an eye. I also see males going crazy over the idea of talking to a girl or a woman or helping her because they think they’ll offend them. I see people with pitchforks in their hands and people who have become less tolerant instead of the other way round. I see men becoming irritated as soon as the female friend of the group joins them. I see girls looking at every guy as a sexist molester. I see chaos. I see agony. I see hatred. Yes, hatred. The movements or more precisely the direction they have taken, becoming a food for the consumerist market and a boon for MNCs and a subject to misinterpretation on Social Media, have increased the rifts between different sections of the society. Till a few years ago, I did not have to think before helping anyone or holding a door for anyone if I was passing, now I have to see whether it’s an old person or a female, will they be offended, do they look like they will be offended, am I about to be called a Sexist or Rude guy and so on. I hate this world and if what I can see 10 years ahead, actually does happen then I’ll be glad I die in some accident before I’m the marrying age rather than living a full life.
The solution? There is none so far. The conscience of humans is fragile in my opinion, there is always misinterpretation and this, as I like to refer to it is the,
World War: Ideologies
The third and last installment in the World War series.
is the biggest subject to misinterpretation so what’s the solution. Well, a start would be to make people more responsible for their actions and see everyone as equal. Schools should stop favouring girls if they make mistakes. The same way, the society should stop cutting slack to males who indulge in activities for which girls would be questioned severely. No gender is above the other. There are things that are plain wrong (as the example in the video) and there are things that are right and any human can do it, irrespective of their gender. These are just little examples where the hidden division making still exists and that is the true culprit. Make them love each other, your movements are making us fight. There are sufferers in both sections, rather all sections and all of them deserve support from the ones who aren’t suffering. Just because you are a female in a men’s world doesn’t guarantee you the tag of a victim. If you’re a strong female and I know many of them who are, help those in need, irrespective of who they are or how they look. If you are man who has reached a place in the society, use that position to spread awareness. Whatever you do DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT follow the Hashtag Activism. DO something about it if you care, even if it means standing up to your family and telling them their attitude is wrong, else SIT at home and never come out again. There are decent people in both sections, stop judging and start understanding. In other words, the idea of pampering one over the other despite their actions never works in a family where there are two children, how do you expect it to work in family of 7 billion People?