Ever heard about the families where the mother is never at home and is always out partying and stuff? My family is the exact opposite of those. My mother never leaves, not for long anyway. Even if she does, it’s for a day that too, it’s either me and mom or dad and mom. Since the last two days I’ve actually realised the sole reason for a mother’s existence in the family, it is the tethering, the connection between all members and how she maintains uplink and downlink with her facial expressions, limiting each individual’s conversation to maintain an optimum exchange. (If you understood the above lines, then it is kind of confirmed that our families are exactly alike.)
So, my mother went to attend my cousin’s wedding on the evening of the 31st of January. A wedding I missed because of my board practical examinations, my brother missed because he had an examination as well and my father missed because me and my dog couldn’t be allowed to stay alone. So, from 4 people going to a wedding it came to just my mother going to it. Different cousin families would still be around during the journey as well as during the proceedings but this post isn’t about how she’s enjoying, rather, it’s about how much of a hard time we guys are having at home.
No. The hard time isn’t about food or us struggling to get up in the morning and get ready. Those things are pretty well, the food is cooked and with some forced food from my paternal relatives who live on the first floor we have ample food for about say, a month given the fact that my mother already cooked us food for three days. She also cooked food for the dog so he has a lot of food too. We generally get up at the right times and have no hard time getting ready either.
The problem arises in the proceedings of the day. How does a day in family go about? Conversation. Thing is father’s and my interests and favourable topics aren’t very common so we have limited things to talk about and when there are two days in between you can imagine those little times of complete silence. Now if my mother would be there, everything would be coordinated like she was the conductor of an orchestra playing Beethoven but in her absence, both of us try to start conversations which after a while drop dead. It’s not like we don’t talk or aren’t bonded, the situation is quite the opposite but still when it comes to a conversation, we have less to talk about.
This is why I realised how important a role my mother plays everyday, just to keep all of us talking in the right amount at the right time. The person who said that the mother is the most important person in the house was in fact 100% correct.
And well, even though we are managing it well, things such as food and getting ready are still a lot easier when she is around… 😛 So, that is typically my first 3 days without my mother.