Unlike most people who have experienced living in two different cities by the time they are 18, I have never lived anywhere besides Dehradun, until now. Now, I’ll be living in Noida for pretty much the next three years barring vacations and I’m homesick, need to go home soon weekends. This post isn’t directly about that though this post is about the mental state before going to college in your own city versus when you’re going to another city, that too for the first time.
I’ll divide this into two sections, the common and the not-so-common feeling. Honestly, I’m in a pretty unique position because I dropped out midway from a course in my city and now, I’ll be joining another full-time course in another city 4 days later and this will be my first time living in a new city so it’s a very specific scenario.
It’s me going to college so I’m anxious. I’m also a little scared and afraid thinking about the kind of people I’ll meet like I was when I joined architecture in my city. I’m confused about what will happen and what situations will I be put through, the teachers and everything else a student might feel before entering college. It’s also a new start where you get to do things again, it seems I’ve got a lot of those lately. That’s pretty much the common part, the usual student starting college situation.
In your own city, there are no insecurities besides a few minor ones plus your place of stay is the place you’ve stayed in since forever: your home. In another city, however you’re cautious and afraid and you’re not going to have a home, you’ll have half a room which you’re going to share with a stranger who might or might not be the kind of person you’ll want to stay with. It’s a potluck. No person is bad per se but it’s all based on compatibility. Me being a person with minor, self-diagnosed (not from the internet) OCD who likes keeping things in order would have a hard time with someone who throws his boxer around the room, for example. It’s all based on luck and it’s another situation that being in your home would never present itself to you. You won’t learn to tackle people who feel and live differently when you’re at home.
Then there’s the learn to be independent song, which is true. In your city, you know stuff for example, the usual places to hang out, the routes and even the people for that matter but in a new city you’ll have to start from a clean slate and the new place being Delhi-NCR only makes things harder.
There’s also that feeling that you’ll be all alone in a totally new city. No familiar faces for the first few months, no people to be around you all the time, no dog to wake you up in the morning. It’s different and the thoughts and different scenarios that you can (over) think are endless and when I say that, I’m saying that with experience.
All of these concerns and anxiety combined with the usual ones associated with going to college, you’re pretty much being bombarded with all sorts of thoughts and if you’re a person who likes things planned, you’re going to have a hard time when you realise, it cannot be planned at all. There’s all sorts of random things that could happen and will happen but one thing is for sure, this time there’s going to be less of dropping out and more of enjoying whatever is thrown at me. 😀
However, I would say that this is truly an objective thing and there’s all sorts of things that are more prior to one individual than the other and in no way am I discouraging you to not go for a college in your city or encouraging you to leave your city no matter what. It’s all a matter of what you want in the end.
Do you agree with me? Do you think going to college in a new city is harder than going to college in your own city? Use the comments box below to let me know how you feel.