This article does not discuss material happiness, that is financial contentment or how to be the go-getter at your school or office isn’t here, if you came here searching for the likes of them, I suggest you use the combination Ctrl + W now.
Today after having a sudden turn-off conversation with someone in the morning I was sent a quote by Hike Messenger Daily Quotes which said,
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
– Mahatma Gandhi
Now, I know you may find this funny but this little experience put me into a little 5 minute introspection. Now to those who are used to introspection and thinking about their actions thoroughly might know that in the introspection world, time doesn’t matter, so what you analyse for 5 minutes in the real world might be hours in the introspection realm or in their mind. All of this depends on the topic, the issue and the dedication you put into it.
So, what is happiness? Is it what Mahatma Gandhi says it is? Is it what any other quotes by any other awesome guy in History.
I say yes and I say no. The explanation is basically this: A quote cannot tell you what happiness exactly is just like a person can’t tell you where some place exactly is. They can point you into the right direction, to the point that you are very close and just need to look or they can at times send you to total strange roads and paths until you backtrack and come back to the same point, you aren’t going anywhere.
Similar was my situation, as a young adult man I am still finding my way through my code of life. I don’t follow religion thus I have no rulebook to abide by except my experiences and views so while still forging my way through life, I try to put into my mind a lot of these thoughts about what happiness is and what does it stand for. Here is what I’ve managed to forage the following so far.
If you’re trying to find happiness in someone else’s perception of life, you are bound to fail for when were you last happy when someone told you what to do? True happiness eludes right, correct, wrong and all the cages of the double standards of life. A fat man can be perfectly happy and content all he needs to do is find himself and what he stands for. We are all but beings of disappointment and self judgement thanks to the million haters all of us have but what if we were to show a middle finger to the haters, not literally, and then learn to be happy with ourselves and those close to us?
I was bullied during childhood, now I admit it had its effects later but now that I remember those nitwits I kind of forgive them, if I were to find someone puny than me I would try to show them my might, anyone would, to control that feeling is what we learn while growing up. My happiness is thus, not hating someone. When I hate people, I put myself deep down into a dark corner where lies everything but positivity. So, after I forgave those guys and took a stand for myself, I am happy. Financial problems, diseases and everything is just life, they cannot take away my happiness or anyone else’s. They increase positivity but to put yourself in a jar filled with greed and safety is to take a fish out of the pond to save it from drowning.
Happiness is thus not something which can be defined and a happy person is every person who accepts themselves, their faults and their greatness. Nobody can tell the difference between a man and a boy or a girl and a woman and I shun those people who write those articles. Each happy person I’ve met or seen has their own story and individuality to tell and in the process, they teach me more on how to be a happy person.
With this I’ll also point out that material things while being evils are necessary. They bring positivity and a sense of accomplishment in your life. Scoring on a test or getting your new job or getting admitting into a college is bound to increase happiness in your life but still, those little moments which make you smile, like an early morning football game in the rain, are worth much more than the new Nexus device you didn’t bring because you came to play not text.
The key is that daily when you look into the mirror, accept yourself for who you are, work on your faults and increase the things you like about yourself. You’re fat? Don’t let it pin yourself in a dark corner, accept it and work towards getting in shape. To be happy is not something someone can teach you, you need to find your own path to happiness. It’s like a junction of 7 billion roads, all of us have to reach it but all of us have different roads to it.
That is, what I think being happy is all about. To accept who you are and what you did wrong, to have enough determination to fix things and to have enough wisdom to forgive and forget.